I've dealt with it, and you may be there right now but I found this neat article on Baby Chick on how to deal with family members that you just don't like!
Create Opportunities to Get Some Space
Finding space in the hustle and bustle of gathering family during the holidays can be difficult if you come in from out of town. There are always opportunities, though: be the one who volunteers to go to the grocery store if there’s a last-minute ingredient left off the list. Bonus points if that grocery store happens to be next to a coffee shop, liquor store, or other places of refuge that extends your foray into the wilds of holiday shoppers instead of returning to the ones who make you want to drink in the first place. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. After all: if you feel overwhelmed or bothered with family during the holidays, that’s the ideal time to head out and give everyone a moment to calm down and process their emotions.
What About Their Point of View?
Considering their perspective is the least exciting prospect of all the things that weigh a family down. After all, you have hard feelings for a reason. Barring certain things, though, there could be other perspectives to consider: maybe a miscommunication led to your disagreement? Many conflicts are a direct result of miscommunication or misunderstanding. Perhaps have a frank discussion about how you’re feeling. Look for ways to be the bigger person that will be healing for all parties involved. Often, waiting for others to make the first move doesn’t work. Instead, it means you may never find peace and healing from the situation. Take charge, address, and confront the problem. Consider if you may have played a part in the situation—then use this opportunity to fix it.
Don’t Allow Others to Belittle You.
Just because you’re looking to be peaceful doesn’t mean you have to tolerate verbal abuse. Some family members do not have.......